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Looking for the lighter side

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The Jewish Report Editorial

Most of us are feeling a little fragile and exhausted. Many are suffering from what would otherwise be diagnosed as low-grade depression, but I’m not sure you can give a blanket diagnosis to such large numbers of people.

I’m not a psychologist, but I can only go on what I see and hear, and I do believe we are all having an extraordinarily challenging time.

This has been a long and tough year – one like nothing we have ever experienced before. I recognise that it’s the second year of this pandemic, but somehow, it didn’t seem so bad when it was in the early days. We were still getting used to life under lockdown and behind masks. There was a novelty value, and it didn’t seem so endless.

My children never let me forget how convinced I was that lockdown or COVID-19 would be brief and forgettable. I told them that we would laugh when we reminisced about it from the beach in December. Well, so much for that. By the time we were together on the coast, we weren’t allowed on beaches because of COVID-19 and we were once again under lockdown.

Now, although many of us are vaccinated and ready and raring to move forward, the end isn’t quite in sight. And for so many, the long, difficult period we have lived through has soaked into our bones and makes us feels like, no matter what we do, there’s no end in sight.

People seem to get angry quickly and don’t want to witness, read, or watch anything that’s uncomfortable, depressing, or violent because we have too much in our lives already.

We are all looking for inspiration, something to make us smile, laugh, or just feel like there’s a lighter side to life, like there is some hope.

When SA Jewish Report chairperson Howard Sackstein had a webinar with the most positive business leaders – advertising executive Mike Abel, Discovery chief executive Adrian Gore, and Nando’s Robbie Brozin – the response was overwhelming. It attracted a massive audience of 23 224, and a significant number told Sackstein that that the webinar had inspired them. A few even said it had saved their lives. It lifted people’s spirits, and made them able to see a future, something better down the line. We all really, really need inspiration and hope.

This plays out in people’s reaction to stories in this newspaper.

Our community responds well to stories about South Africans in other countries and stories that we can relate to, but don’t really touch our lives. They also respond well to wacky, offbeat stories.

But when we wrote about the tragic death of a South African woman at the hands of people she had helped, people were devastated. Some literally didn’t want to read it.

It wasn’t about the gruesome details, but living in South Africa, the murder of someone in the community is devastating and instils fear in all of us.

Amazingly, we haven’t had such stories in the paper for a long time. This has been the first in more than two years. And as someone pointed out, it’s important to tell such stories because it means that it matters to us when someone is killed.

When it no longer matters, we have a real problem on our hands.

The point is, right now, the trauma and horror that touches our lives is too close for comfort. We can’t deal with it.

We need a break from trauma, violence, death, and sadness.

We really long for uplifting simchas and happiness to share with those we care about.

Just the thought of being able to spend time with my whole family for a Shabbos is like a dream, something I long for. To share a joke or have a good – even challenging – discussion across the table seems so precious.

The time for that is up ahead. We all know it intrinsically. Exactly when, we don’t know. Will it mean a booster vaccine? Again, we don’t know. Will it be next year? Who can tell? However, we can be certain the time will come.

Until then, we need to find ways of staying positive and hopeful. Firstly, it’s important to get off our own backs. If you aren’t feeling thrilled about life, that’s okay. If you are battling, get help.

I had a chat last week to Rabbi David Masinter, who this week held the uplifting Miracle Drive to raise funds. In him, I see someone who finds ways to remain positive because he spends his life trying to uplift others. He does it by introducing them to Pirkei Avot and tehillim, but also by putting up colourful sculptures of the words “Be Kind” and other simple but thought-provoking phrases in public spaces.

He also gives work to people in need to create beautiful Jewish art for others. (See page 9.)

Now, can I categorically say he is always happy? I wouldn’t be able to do that, but the ability to keep helping and uplifting people cannot be harmful.

So, Rabbi Masinter has inspired me to try my very best to do one small thing every day to make someone else’s life a little better.

I’m not talking about giving millions to charity because I simply can’t do that. I’m talking about little things that could be big things to certain people – and every day, I will decide what that will be.

I’m hoping that this will put smiles on other people’s faces, which in turn will put one on my own. I would love to spread joy and smiles because I believe we all need it. Who wouldn’t?

Anyone going to join me?

Shabbat Shalom!

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The Jewish Report Editorial

Forewarned is forearmed

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On Monday, we go to the polls for our local government election and for the first time in a long time, I’m hearing people questioning who they are going to vote for. Somehow, I have the sense that many are taking this election more seriously than before because they recognise that it will have a direct impact on their day to day lives.

People are genuinely trying to work out which person is going to be best for them and their suburb. I, for one, and most of the people I know are sick and tired of trying to avoid driving into the huge vehicle-destroying dongas on our roads. These seem to remain unfilled for months, and are exacerbated by the rainy season.

We are tired of power outages that last for days with no respite and apparently nobody doing anything about them either. We are tired of suddenly not having water coming through our taps.

The frustration is endless, and I would love to know that there was someone in a position of power who was on our side, making sure that when we have these problems, they are dealt with quickly and painlessly.

So, would it be better to vote in someone from the Democratic Alliance (DA) or African National Congress (ANC) because of the power in numbers and the fact that one of these two parties is likely to run the major cities? But then what happens if your ward counsellor is DA in an ANC municipality – would she or he be restricted?

Perhaps we should be voting for that independent guy who looks like he’s so committed to the right kind of change, he’s put up his Barmitzvah money to stand in this election. But maybe as a lone soldier in the opposing army, he’s not likely to have much persuasion power. How about that party that wants Cape Town to be its own country?

I don’t have the answers for you, although we have tried to give you as much information as we possibly can. We have introduced you to the Jewish people standing for election (page 10 to 11), written about a proposed mayor (page 12), got experts to write for you (page 6), and put on webinars to educate us all.

Now it’s up to you. Make your vote count because your vote matters. It could be your vote that tips the scales towards one particular person or even a whole party. So, don’t underestimate your power.

I’m sure I don’t need to remind anyone how many people died in this country so that every citizen has that right to vote. It’s a precious right that we need to use so that the government does what it needs to do for us.

I was shocked when a close friend of mine, who has always been very politically involved, told me he was going to the coast this weekend to be back in a couple of weeks. I asked him about voting, and he sheepishly said that he was hoping nobody would ask because he can’t vote at the coast.

My sense is when people who criticise the authorities don’t vote, they relinquish the right to that criticism.

We all make our choices, but I implore you to use that precious right and vote so that we can ensure that the people looking after our day to day needs are going to do a better job than they have been doing.

This brings me to one of the key issues that has been used in campaigning for votes, namely whether or not to vaccinate.

As someone whose whole family is now vaccinated and proudly so, I cannot believe that people are still vacillating over this. I’m astonished at how many people are still refusing to be vaccinated, citing nonsense they have picked up on social media as proof positive that they shouldn’t vaccinate.

As we have a less stressful hiatus between waves and get to experience just a little more freedom, I can tell you I don’t want that freedom taken from me again.

And it’s clear that the more people are vaccinated, the less chance of another serious wave that will put us back under lockdown. Let’s vaccinate for freedom.

I must say, I was pleased to hear that Julius Malema agreed with me, getting vaccinated because he “believes in science”. He even called on his supporters to get vaccinated. Then he went on to cite that because all the Jews were being vaccinated, he knew it was safe because “they” put a high price on life (page 5).

At first, like Howard Feldman (page 14), I had to think about what he said and I wondered if it was meant to be an insult. However, to me, it was clearly a veiled compliment – if that’s a possibility coming from Malema – and is true. We do value life, and do everything possible to preserve it.

And although our experts didn’t think him saying this was kosher, I have to admit that after Israelis had vaccinated their children, it made me feel safe to vaccinate mine.

However, there have been many counsellors and party leaders around the country who have used their campaign to dissuade people from vaccinating. Frankly, I see this as an abuse of power, but I guess I have to allow people to make up their own minds.

Having said that, I was significantly irked this week by the lack of warning about potential threats to our children post-vaccine.

I was fortunate to be on Dr Sheri Fanaroff’s mailing list on 17 October, when she put out a piece about teens being vaccinated. In it, she warned that teens, especially boys, shouldn’t do strenuous exercise for up to a week after being vaccinated to safeguard them from the rare incidence of pericarditis or myocarditis.

So, I knew about it when my boys were vaccinated, but nobody told them or me when they were being vaccinated. And I wonder just how many people were made aware before their teens were vaccinated.

For this reason, I asked Dr Sheri to write the piece on page 5 to ensure we all know about it and can watch out for any signs.

I’m not telling you this because I think we should rethink vaccinating our kids. To the contrary, I just believe in taking every precaution to safeguard us all from any harm. And I believe forewarned is forearmed. A few days without sport won’t hurt anyone…

So, before you head out to the polling booths on Monday, make sure that you have done your research, using all we have given you and whatever else you can find to guide you to make your choice. That way, you too will be forearmed to choose the people who would best serve you, your suburb, and our community.

Power to your pencil!

Shabbat Shalom!

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The Jewish Report Editorial

Seeing heroes emerging

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To make us all feel happier, we need to feel safe, secure, and well. And these three tiers in our lives have been battered and bruised over the past few years. However, I feel happier right now because I am seeing these needs being met again. You may be thinking that I have finally lost my marbles, but let me explain…

Our sense of wellness has been challenged severely by COVID-19, but we are well out of the third wave, and so many of us have been vaccinated. Now, we have the opportunity to get our youngsters vaccinated too. That’s the best news I’ve heard in a long time.

I totally understand why some parents are a little hesitant to rush into vaccinating their children, but I believe that vaccination is our ticket out of this torrid coronavirus-ridden time we are living in. It’s our ticket to freedom, travel, and having a semblance of our former life. I cannot imagine anyone of us is not longing for that. I sure am!

As my teenage boys said to me when I asked if they wanted to have the vaccine, “It’s a no brainer, mom, we have to have it!” And apparently, I can’t override their choice legally – not that I plan to.

However, I do get that some parents are nervous about putting chemicals into their children’s bodies unnecessarily. Can I say, I have seen too much illness – even in young people – in the past year and a half to believe this is unnecessary. It’s essential to protect your children, your other loved ones, the community, the country, and the world. It’s that simple!

So, any good parent should hesitate, but don’t pause for long because, as my boys said, “It’s a no brainer, mom!”

The second tier I want to look at is safety. After hearing about the horrific murder of the much loved jeweller, Mark Kopelowitz, last week, I felt physically sick. I couldn’t help imagining this father of four lightly saying goodbye to his family in the morning on his way to work, never thinking that it would be for the last time. They may or may not have kissed him goodbye because – as we all do – they assumed that he would be home at the end of the day, as normal. But that wasn’t to be.

That’s enough to shatter our sense of safety. However, there’s another side to this horrific story and that’s the fact that within hours, a crack team of investigators made up of our own CAP, the police, and others had culprits behind bars with evidence to take them to court.

Now, that’s a huge accomplishment. You see, part of our feeling of insecurity is tied into the fact that we don’t feel protected by the police anymore. However, this crack team is doing the most amazing work, particularly in our areas, and it’s fighting crime in a way that it hasn’t been fought for decades. They are bringing back our sense of security.

One of the worst issues regarding crime is criminals getting away with it. In so doing, they have no fear of doing it again and again, encouraging mayhem and an attitude that they are all powerful. This crack team is showing them that crime will no longer pay. They are changing the face of crime-fighting in our areas. Hopefully, their example will be followed around the country.

Isn’t it amazing how it can be done with the right commitment, people, and technology?

Following on that, I would like to take you to another story we covered in Sandton this week.

An armed robbery right next to a Jewish school that could have ended in tragedy. But it didn’t because of the quick thinking and action of teachers at the school and the Community Security Organisation. Their actions were so swift and calm, the nursery school children didn’t even realise that they were all in their safe rooms because a real crime was happening. They were blissfully thinking it was another drill that they experience regularly.

So, those children will remain emotionally unscathed by this senseless attempted robbery.

Again, these people inspire safety and security in me.

Living in South Africa, we have no choice but to accept the threat of crime. It exists, no matter how much we hate it. We just hope and pray we remain unscathed.

It is, however, essential to be vigilant and protect ourselves all the time. I know that sounds easier said than done – it is. And every one of us is going to let our guard down at some point. We’re only human.

We just need to keep our guard up as much as possible and, should something happen, we must do whatever it takes to safeguard ourselves, our children, and those around us.

More and more, I’m seeing people doing just that. We may not personally be able to stop crime, but we can do our best to avoid it or use what we have learned to teach others.

Nicky Sher had a horrific experience when hijackers took her on a joyride, leaving her fearing for her life. (See page 3.) Incredibly, this brave woman has come out with her story in order to help others who may find themselves in a similar situation. She wants to warn and help them.

So, when I say that I believe these needs are being met, I really do. I see heroes emerging. I see a community gathering to put an end to the darkness in the only way we know how.

I feel inspired and happy!

Shabbat shalom!

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The Jewish Report Editorial

No more double standards

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When the South African government hosts the foreign affairs minister of another country, it’s generally good news. When we welcome leadership from elsewhere, it mostly means increased co-operation between the two states, building relationships, and boosting trade.

In fact, in the past 18 months, in spite of the pandemic, we have hosted a number of leaders, including President Emmanuel Macron of France; Spanish secretary of state for foreign affairs, Cristina Gallach Figueras; Algerian Foreign Affairs Minister Sabri Boukadoum; Dr Lazarus McCarthy Chakwera, the president of the Republic of Malawi; and Lesotho Prime Minister Dr Moeketsi Majoro.

The countries we invite or simply welcome are varied, some being more or less important to us in terms of trade and bilateral agreements. Some official visitors are more or less impressive to host. Nevertheless, making friends and influencing other governments is generally a good sign in a country’s leadership.

Considering this, I would expect to be glad when South African International Relations and Cooperation Minister Dr Naledi Pandor hosted and welcomed with open arms the minister of foreign affairs and expatriates of the state of Palestine, Dr Riad Malki. It’s neither here nor there if such a country in fact exists. South Africa should be enhancing relationships with other leaders around the world.

However, it gets stuck in my throat when the same honour isn’t proffered to the leadership of Israel. In fact, our dear minister of international relations and cooperation is unlikely to be available for such a meeting even if it was hosted in her honour.

But yet, at the same time, she will have these warm and friendly meetings with this Palestinian leader, talking about peace in the Middle East and finding a two-state solution. This actually sounds wonderful, except that you cannot work towards peace by dealing with only one side. You cannot negotiate peace without both parties being given an equal platform, or am I somehow mistaken?

Let’s talk more about creating an equal platform. In their discussions, the foreign ministers of South African and ‘Palestine’ agreed to do all they could to remove Israel’s newly bestowed observer status at the African Union. Why, you may ask? Quite simply, to punish Israel. Is that a way of working towards peace between Israelis and Palestinians? I think not.

Then, while Pandor is going to welcome Palestinian leader Mahmoud Abbas for a state visit to South Africa, she wouldn’t be seen anywhere near the company of Israeli Prime Minister Naftali Bennett. And, the latter’s crime? None that I know of, but we would have to ask the very learned Dr Pandor.

The Palestinian and South African bilateral discussions also brought about agreement to host a Cape Town conference for Palestinian heads of missions in Africa this year where the “state of Palestine’s policy towards Africa” will be discussed and contemplated. What are the chances of our government hosting such a conference for Israelis? The truth is, in this instance, I’m sure holding such a conference for Israelis would be perfectly acceptable, only it would inspire a huge protest, and so on.

So, I repeat, government hosting this Palestinian leader is essentially good news, as is its hosting of most other leaders. However, it’s the double standards that irk me.

Though South Africa will entertain leaders from countries with horrific human-rights records, it won’t meet Israel. China is way up on this index, as is Libya, Syria, Iran, all of whom are friends of our government, but not Israel (which doesn’t really feature on this abusive list).

What’s so perplexing for me is that it seems like South Africa is being left behind with its anti-Israel sentiment – or can I go as far as calling it South Africa’s blind spot?

Most countries in the world recognise these days that a relationship with Israel can only be good for them. Israel is way ahead of so many countries in terms of technology, agriculture, science, and even medicine, that it’s worthwhile to maintain a good working relationship with it.

So many African countries with a good relationship with Israel have benefited hugely on numerous fronts, but South Africa cannot or will not consider this.

I totally understand that a country with a background of human-rights abuses would find it unconscionable to be friends with a country that commits human-rights abuses. If Israel was really such a country, then perhaps we wouldn’t have room to talk.

However, Israel is in the heart of the Middle East, nestled among a number of countries where human-rights abuses are horrific. And yet, South Africa picks this tiny country to put its pins into, ignoring the friends it has that commit human-rights abuses. I say it again: these are very convenient double standards!

I also understand looking out for Palestinian women and children who have been treated badly and made homeless. I feel for them, and wish I could help them. However, what about Afghan women and children? Or is it okay to abuse them or ignore the fact that they are being abused because it isn’t woke to protest against that?

I feel as if I have said this all before, and I know I have. However, somehow, it seems important to come back to it when our government’s double standards are being showcased once again when it comes to Israel and the Palestinians.

I can’t ignore it. We can’t ignore it.

The only solution is to make it clear that if the South African government or our foreign affairs minister is going to meet Palestinian leaders, then she needs to meet Israeli leaders. She needs to get to know the issues from both sides, to sit down and discuss them. Visit Israel. See for herself. Don’t take it from others. Do the research, and make up her own mind based on the facts.

It isn’t rocket science. It’s simply taking away the blinkers of prejudice and replacing them with the facts. We can help! Just say the word.

Shabbat Shalom!

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