New pets run rings around lockdown blues
In the chaos before the hard lockdown in March 2020, people scrambled to get groceries, stock up on alcohol, or buy cigarettes. But some used those last few days of freedom to look beyond their own needs and help vulnerable animals.
They opened their hearts and homes to new pets, often on the spur of the moment. Their new furry family members provide comfort, joy, and affection during these difficult days of distancing, and they’ve never looked back.
“Our family decided we needed a new furry friend to make lockdown more bearable. Thus, on 25 March 2020, just after ‘Uncle Cyril’s’ first family meeting, we visited the amazing Kitty and Puppy Haven and pleaded for a puppy,” remembers Nikki Jammy.
“We were shown into an enclosure with some busy looking Jack Russel-ish puppies. Immediately, a little one with a skew stripe on his face and the attitude of a lion bounded up to us. Orlando ‘Olly’ Jammy chose us as his family – and boy did he choose well!”
“Olly broke all the rules. From no sleeping upstairs, he was in our beds within a couple of weeks. Olly formed a special bond not only with his people, but his fellow canines [one of whom sadly left us just a few short weeks after Olly’s arrival]. We consider ourselves blessed to have been able to give this wonderful pup a home. Aside from being spoiled, Olly’s access to people 24/7/365 has given him almost human traits, and every day is an adventure. Lockdown pets are, indeed, special!”
Meanwhile, the day before lockdown, “my stepdaughter was at a shelter with 450 cats, and they were trying to find homes for as many as possible”, says Gail Blacher. “I told her, ‘You better bring me a cat to look after.’ She landed up bringing two, and the rest is history. We chose two black cats which are the hardest to find homes for. We rushed to buy food for them … it was an instant decision. I started out fostering them, but I would never give them away.
“Before lockdown, our lives were so busy,” she says. “We had animals before, but hadn’t had a pet for a year. So it was perfect to get them for lockdown, when we were home a lot more. It was comforting. Now we don’t know what life would be without them. One is actually a feral cat, but he’s the one who never even tries to leave the house! He follows us around all day. We love them to the moon and back. We have fun with them, and they make us laugh.”
In Cape Town, Kelli Lunsky says, “We’d been umming and ahing about a puppy for a while. We’d wanted to get one for our son, Cameron, for his seventh birthday, but were due to move soon so decided against it. When the president announced the hard lockdown with a few days’ notice, my husband, Benji, and I looked at each other and said, “Let’s do it.” We found him after one phone call! One little boy in the litter, waiting for us!
“We decided to surprise the kids,” she says. “We’d just bought a Nespresso machine [also for lockdown] and told the kids they needed to come with us for a drive to collect a new milk frother that we’d bought off Gumtree. So we drove out to Brackenfell to meet the lady in the parking lot of a huge liquor store [you can’t believe the queues before lockdown]. When she pulled up next to us and lifted a puppy off her lap, the kids couldn’t believe their eyes! We bundled him up, brought him home, and the rest is history.
“He was the absolute delight and joy we needed to help us through the boredom and monotony of lockdown,” she says. “He got involved in online learning, attended many Zoom lessons, and took part in our daily exercise routine, doing laps around the property. Our other two doggies obviously couldn’t get out for walks, so George kept them well entertained as well!”
Also in Cape Town, Ian Blacher got his rescue dog, Riley, in 2019, but says her presence definitely helped them keep the lockdown blues away. “As she is a very active and demanding little dog, keeping her busy certainly made lockdown entertaining. She ran around the building with us on our morning training routines and we spent time training and socialising her with the other dogs in the building. She also kept some of the other residents in the building entertained and comforted, as dogs definitely have a comforting effect on people experiencing distress or loneliness.”
Meanwhile, some are continuing the trend as lockdown continues in one form or another with no end in sight. In Cape Town, Stephen “Sugar” Segerman says, “We have two older cats, but a month or so ago, we decided to get a kitten as a ‘lockdown upper’. I’ve always wanted a ginger kitten, but when we went to see one at a foster home, it turned out that there were two – twin boys. We took them both, and named them Archie and Naartjie. They have captured our hearts and home, adopted our dog Buddy as their uncle, and have brought nothing but joy to us during these difficult times.”
The SA Jewish Report is running a pet webinar on 23 September at 19:30. Please send us photographs and videos of your pets doing unbelievable and unique things. Email them to email@example.com with your name, the pet’s name, your contact details, and any interesting details (optional). Prizes will be up for grabs.
No angels or demons in schoolyard bullying
When King David Junior School Linksfield principal Ruth Isaacson listens to two children each telling their side of a story that potentially involves bullying, she usually doesn’t find any angels or demons.
“You find that there has been some provocation,” she said on 23 November during her school’s webinar entitled ‘Bully-proofing Your Child by Building Resilience and Grit’. “What we try to do is to remain neutral, listen to both sides of the story, and point out what can be done differently, and what could have been done differently.”
Depending on the severity of the situation, Isaacson tells the children, “I need to have a meeting with you in three days’ time. I want to check to see how the days are going, and whether you have had better days.”
She said giving children accountability changes the dynamic because they won’t bully another child when another meeting is on the horizon.
The webinar focused on equipping children with skills to face bullying. Bullies are present in every life stage, and all children will have to deal with conflict at some point in their lives.
“The idea of this webinar came about because we’re still trying to educate children not to use the term ‘bullying’ loosely,” said Isaacson. “If children understand what bullying is and what it’s not, they can alert their parents and teachers who will help de-escalate the situation and provide preventative tools for future encounters.”
Using the right language is crucial in determining if a behaviour is bullying, agreed Jo Hamilton, an educational psychologist who’s interested in teaching children how to manage conflict situations. She’s written a book, The Ultimate Assertiveness Toolbox for Kids, on the subject.
“A huge difference exists between bullying, and everyday mean, unkind, thoughtless, competitive, nasty behaviour,” said Hamilton. Bullying is distinctive because it’s intentional, repetitive, and creates an actual or perceived imbalance of power, she said.
“An actual imbalance of power is where the person who’s bullying is taller, stronger, older, or has more facilities at their means,” said Hamilton. “In a perceived imbalance of power, as with social power, they seem more powerful.” For example, bullying may give rise to the bullied person thinking, “If I say or do something, [that] will [turn] the whole [class] against me.”
Luke Lamprecht, a child protection and development specialist, believes the idea that the bullied become bullies, and that bullies have poor self-esteem, are both a bit of a myth.
“My experience of the bullies I’ve been sent [to work with] – and these are proper, taunting, harassing bullies – is they have an extremely strong sense of themselves,” he said. “They’re just unable to take the perspective of another, and that for me is the really challenging part to manage.”
Having worked for several years in a girls’ school, Hamilton has seen how girls are often raised to be kind, thoughtful, and caring, but believes they should also be raised to be assertive and respectful to themselves.
Lamprecht’s experience of working mainly with boys and running a boxing gym in Hillbrow has shown him that boys are quite different. “It tends to be quite explosive, immediate, kind of ‘Let’s shake hands afterwards and get on with it.’”
This candidate Master of Science in child health said children, especially boys, are often seen by their peers as weak or a snitch when they seek help. “The idea of becoming a man is somehow performative in the world. You have to perform. You have to see how many times you can be beaten down and stand up again. What we don’t recognise is that if we don’t intervene, both the victim of the bullying and the bully are denied services.”
If parents help their children to take responsibility, they’re giving them tools to become better socialised, said Isaacson. “By not dealing with the situation, they’re actually starting that process of isolating their child,” she said. “We know kids sort each other out. They’ll stay away from a child who is too confident, picks on kids, or feels quite empowered to do so.”
Isaacson and Lamprecht acknowledged the importance of the maternal function of hugging and loving unconditionally, and the paternal function of instilling discipline.
Asked by a parent watching the webinar what to do when a boy is mean to your daughter, Lamprecht responded, “You tell your daughter to inform that boy to never talk to you like that again, because boys don’t talk to girls in mean ways. Boys are kind, and they talk to girls in kind ways, and girls like kind boys.”
Lamprecht said it’s “mad” that girls have to interpret nasty behaviour by boys as a sign that they like them. “We cannot allow that to be perpetuated because the long-term consequences are really dire,” he said. “Parents of boys should tell their boys to not speak to girls in mean ways, and give them a flower if they like them.” He believes children model their behaviour on their parents and a world that’s fraught with competitiveness.
Isaacson said, “Our social workers are also looking at kids being one to two years behind [because of the pandemic]. There’s a lag in social and emotional development. Something to do is maybe have discussions with your kids when there isn’t a crisis. Don’t wait until your kid comes home absolutely distraught. Rather have the discussion about how we should react if somebody provokes us or says something mean.”
She related how she once phoned a parent whose child was reacting badly to some provocation. “The mother said she had told her child to think about what might be happening in the other child’s life that’s making him behave in a way that isn’t so nice. I thought that was quite an exceptional level of parenting. The most important thing is the role-modelling, the kindness, just hearing your child out, and also being sympathetic and empathetic towards not only your own child, but also other people’s children.”
A new play opens debate on playing Wagner
Many Jewish musicians will not play or listen to the music of Richard Wagner because he has been promoted as Hitler’s favourite composer, but for most this is an unspoken agreement.
Victor Gordon, the late award-winning Pretoria playwright, has pulled the Band Aid off this debate in his play You Will Not Play Wagner. It has been turned into a Zoom film with award-winning actress Annette Miller, who previously played Golda Meir in Golda’s Balcony, as its lead and premiered internationally on 16 November.
“The film opens a discussion on a topic that’s usually not discussed – intergenerational trauma, community, and the assumptions about Wagner,” says Tali Nates, founder and director of the Johannesburg Holocaust & Genocide Centre.
“Should Wagner’s music be played or not? Why is Wagner in the conversation and not others who were much more antisemitic than him? All these critical thinking questions need to be discussed, and I think this play or film allows us to do that.”
The film is dedicated to the memory of Gordon, who was also an artist, musician, community leader, and strong literary advocate for Israel. It was directed by Lilia Levitina.
The play was Gordon’s second international production, and was performed live in both Israel and Australia. He adapted it for Zoom just before he succumbed to COVID-19 in June this year.
Gordon, a retired pharmacist, wrote his first play at the age of 13. He also developed an interest in painting and music, and would go on to sell just under 100 paintings and play jazz semi-professionally for more than 40 years.
He was aware of the informal ban on Wagner’s music in Israel because of the German composer being promoted during the Nazi era as Hitler’s favourite composer. Although this unofficial ban has been unsuccessfully challenged by acclaimed conductors Zubin Mehta and Daniel Barenboim, Gordon wrote a play to explore the dramatic possibilities inherent in the debate around this subject matter.
Set in New York and Tel Aviv during the COVID-19 pandemic, the film focuses on the days leading up to the final of the Esther Greenbaum Conductors Competition. Greenbaum is a Holocaust survivor and the competition’s patron who puts up the prize money for the winner.
She would like the character, Ya’akov, a millennial Israeli upstart, to beat the other five composers, each of a different nationality, in the final. To her surprise, Ya’akov chooses to play music by Wagner in the final.
Ya’akov, who believes the taboo on Wagner’s music in Israel must change, engages in an emotional argument with Greenbaum and the competition’s organiser, whose name is Morris, during a Zoom meeting.
Morris says Ya’akov’s choice will not be tolerated by the general public while Israel remains home to one Holocaust survivor. Ya’akov stands by his selection because he has not transgressed the competition rules and believes the anti-Wagner tradition is “stupid”.
He questions whether a problem would have arisen had he chosen a composer like Mikhail Glinka or Modest Mussorgsky, who never hid their dislike of Jews. He says Wagner had Jewish friends and made great music which presents a unique challenge for any conductor.
Greenbaum argues that Wagner had an influence on Hitler and the philosophy of the Third Reich.
Having ended the meeting in a hysterical state, Greenbaum tries to get her final Zoom meeting with Ya’akov off to a better start, but it soon becomes extremely heated.
When Ya’akov says a live experience with Wagner’s music made him the composer he is today, Greenbaum says that is not her experience. As a mere child, she was forced on pain of death to play Wagner for her concentration camp’s orchestra. “Were I not able to play the violin – were it not for Wagner’s music – I would not now be alive,” she says.
Ya’akov argues we should not forever remain victims of the Nazis and playing Wagner would be the ultimate victory over them.
Nates, a historian who lectures internationally on Holocaust education, says it’s not important whether playing Wagner in Israel would amount to treachery or triumph. “The discussion and the dialogue are the most important,” says Nates, whose father and uncle were among the many Jews saved by businessman Oskar Schindler during the Holocaust.
“The film is so powerful because it’s not just telling a Holocaust story, a survivor’s story, or an artefact’s story. It’s not telling one story. It tells about memory, intergenerational memory, and coming to terms with history. It connects history and personal history, and memory and the importance of collective memory and collective trauma.”
Nates was impressed with how Gordon changed the configuration of the play into a film, but she says it doesn’t cover all aspects of the Holocaust, “which has a complicated history with many layers”.
She says the complicated relationship between Hitler’s admiration of Wagner and the missing pieces of this part of history means playing Wagner in Israel has become a pop culture taboo.
“One of the key historians of Wagner and the Holocaust wrote a book that basically questioned the assumption that Wagner’s music was played by the orchestra of Auschwitz. It was 100% not played by the orchestra in the camps, but it is pop culture belief that it was.”
Investigative journalist refuses to take Lotto abuse
Veteran investigative journalist and media trainer, Raymond “Ray” Joseph, has always believed that journalists should fight for justice with their pens not the courts. But that was before suspended chief operating officer of the National Lotteries Commission (NLC), Phillemon Letwaba, allegedly defamed him and his family in a recent interview.
Joseph, who has been a journalist since 1974, is a freelancer for the GroundUp investigative news site, and has won awards for his work on dodgy spending by the NLC. “It’s like a microcosm of state capture, and I’m right in the middle of it,” Joseph told the SA Jewish Report in the past. The scathing reports have raised concern over how money meant for “good causes” – poverty relief and charity – is in some cases being dispersed in highly questionable ways. Letwaba is also suing Joseph and GroundUp in relation to some of these articles.
“Enough is enough,” Joseph told the SA Jewish Report in an exclusive interview. “He told demonstrable lies and attacked my family. It’s a bridge too far. Picking on me is one thing, but picking on my family is another thing completely.”
Joseph says that Letwaba defamed him during an interview with senior journalist Stephen Grootes on popular 24-hour news channel Newzroom Afrika.
In Joseph’s summons, which has been issued by the Cape High Court and has been served on Letwaba, he attaches a transcript in which Letwaba said Joseph was a “major beneficiary” of lottery funds. Letwaba claimed that more than 12 organisations linked to Joseph were no longer receiving lottery funds and suggested Joseph was attacking him because of this.
Amongst other points, Letwaba also claimed that Joseph, his wife, and family were direct beneficiaries of lottery funding. He said Joseph “is an old man who came out of retirement to come and focus on the character of the COO and attack the integrity of the NLC … I’m saying we have been dealing with lies since 2014 just because one individual who is the major beneficiary of the NLC decided to declare war against the NLC.”
In his summons, Joseph claims that Letwaba’s remarks are not only untrue but defamatory. “They were understood by the reasonable audience to mean that I knowingly breached journalistic ethics, was a vengeful and malicious journalist, and had embarked on an untruthful campaign against him and the commission.”
Joseph says that after hearing Letwaba’s accusations, the average person would consider that Joseph was acting out of spite for “losing benefits”. Letwaba has refused to publish an apology and a retraction. Letwaba has until early December to file a notice of intention to defend the action, and until February next year to file a plea.
Joseph says that this kind of intimidation reminds him of “the bad old days” when journalists and their sources had reason to fear. “It’s not nice worrying for your security and safety, and that of your family, never knowing what’s going to happen. I have reason to be concerned – I’m not paranoid. I have received anonymous threats and been through the gamut.”
He says Letwaba served papers on him and GroundUp for defamation more than two years ago, “but has made no attempt to get the matter before court. We have tried, because we want to face him in court, but it’s very hard for a plaintiff to force the matter. But now, my lawyer is in charge of the process. Once and for all, he will see us in court, and answer for his allegations under oath.” He adds that when one sues, one can ask for documents as part of the legal “discovery” process, which will make it “a whole new ballgame”.
He emphasises that he’s not suing for the money, but rather “to get this man before court to explain his behaviour for an extended period of time, and to force him to bring proof of serious allegations. I want him under cross examination, showing evidence and documents. In this work [journalism], your reputation is hard currency. I’m exercising my right to defend my good name. That’s all you’ve got as a reporter. Because they can no longer attack the facts, they are now attacking the journalist. It’s unpleasant, but it’s not unique to me. If you want to attack a journalist, come with proof. Come with the evidence. I don’t write what I can’t prove. But on TV, he made these wild allegations.”
People have been telling him to sue for ages, he says. “It’s tough. Constantly being attacked wears you down. But at the same time, all these attacks have done is made me more determined than ever. And GroundUp is committed to seeing this thing out. I’m privileged to have a brave editor [Nathan Geffen] who doesn’t scare easily. GroundUp’s commitment to the story has kept it alive. I’m privileged to have had the time and space to pursue the investigation.”
He has faith that he will see justice both in his work and this case. “I have patience. It’s a long game. I’ve been investigating for three years. I’m no shrinking violet. I will follow through the investigation, as long as it takes. It’s not over till it’s over. This makes me more determined, and I’ll keep on keeping on.”
Geffen told the SA Jewish Report that “a culture of impunity is developing, and not just in South Africa, where corrupt or dishonest people believe they can make any assertions publicly no matter how false or defamatory. Ray has been doing his job diligently, exposing lottery corruption and mismanagement. It’s not acceptable for those he has implicated, like Phillemon Letwaba, to respond by making absurd and false defamatory allegations. Ray is taking a stance against this behaviour and we [GroundUp] support his decision.”
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