Silent heroes touch lives during time of sorrow
There has been a focus on frontline healthcare workers and emergency medical personnel during the COVID-19 pandemic, but what about the community’s loyal and over stretched “death-care” workers?
These are the unsung heroes of Johannesburg’s Chevrah Kadisha burial services, the last responders on the frontline whose day begins when someone in the community dies. Sadly, they have been very busy.
They are known as mesuskim (attendants), and no matter what time of day – and often in the middle of the night – they are the ones to answer the phone when you have to make that dreaded call. From a smallholding in Krugersdorp, a rundown flat in Hillbrow, to a mansion in the suburbs, these men are often the first to arrive and offer a kind word.
Since the start of the pandemic, these silent heroes of Westpark Cemetery have touched the lives of countless people. They have had to adapt to a whole new world of figuring out how to comfort mourning families from a distance wearing full personal-protective equipment while adhering to the health department’s vastly changed protocols.
This week, the Chev’s six full-time mesuskim were presented with new suits donated by the community in a show of appreciation for their efforts. They reminisced about the “fearful and terrifying” early days of the pandemic.
“It was scary when we attended the first few COVID-19 calls,” said Keith Tabakin who has been at Westpark for nine years. “We had to adapt and face our fears.”
The six full-time mesuskim work around the clock in shifts making sure that there is always someone on duty, said funeral director David Weber, who has been with the Chevrah Kadisha for 13 years.
The Johannesburg Chevrah Kadisha is unique, he said. “In other places, there are separate companies that deal with coffins, burial plots, or funeral arrangements. Overseas, the Chev takes care of the dead, over here we look after the dead and the living.”
All it takes is one phone call for the team of dedicated burial specialists to spring into action. Weber and Funeral Directors Philip Kalmonowitz and Darren Sevitz, together with the six mesuskim and many volunteers take care of everything from collecting the deceased, doing tahara, which spiritually prepares bodies for burial, attending funeral arrangements, navigating the paperwork, and carrying out the burial. The mesuskim attend every funeral, and on many occasions form part of the minyan when there aren’t enough men present.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, the work has been seemingly endless. Regretfully there have been too many calls.
According to Chevrah Kadisha Chief Executive Saul Tomson, the number of funerals rose 82% in January compared to the average number of funerals over the past five years. The number of funerals in December rose 37% compared to the past five Decembers.
“Even though burial is only a small part [less than 5%] of the Chev’s activities, it’s at the core of who we are and where we come from,” he said.
There are on average 40 funerals a month in “normal” times, said Weber. “In July, there were 110 funerals during the first pandemic surge.” There were days when the men attended to nine or 10 funerals.
The head of the ladies tahara, Shirley Resnick, is like a mother figure to the mesuskim. She recalls when it was so busy, she had to ensure that they were adequately fed because many worked long stretches without eating.
“There were many nights when we arranged mattresses and blankets so they could sleep in the newly built tahara room at Sandringham Gardens,” she said, to ensure that if they were worked late, they could be back at work early the next day.
“Some of them were traumatised in the beginning by having to visit COVID-19 wards or homes where they felt at high risk of exposure. There were times some considered pulling out but instead, they pulled together. They are a close-knit group who help each other.”
So how do they cope?
“We focus on the job,” said Tabakin who is grateful to be able to help people, especially those he knows, during a stressful period in their lives.
“There is life after the cemetery,” said Neil Nathan. “At work, we concentrate on what we’re required to do with compassion and care, but when we leave, we try to switch off and concentrate on our family life.”
Although it has been stressful and difficult at times, Eddie Taitz said he found the work rewarding.
“Before I came to work at the Chev, I was petrified to be even in the driveway of Westpark, but now I’m used to it. It has become a way of life,” he said.
Braam Shevel, who contracted COVID-19 last year, has been at the Chev for 15 years. The husband and father of two said the work can sometimes take its toll, but his spirits are lifted because his work enables him to “touch people’s lives”.
“People remember any act of kindness – a simple gesture or a certain look – for years to come. This brings me a sense of fulfilment and reminds me of the importance of the work we do,” he said.
The longest serving member of the mesuskim, Rodney Margot, takes pride in having adapted to the new rules laid down by the health department and the extra work brought by the pandemic. The husband and father of two grown children said the hours were long but no funerals were delayed and everyone was buried speedily and according to Jewish law.
Colin Barnett said he felt honoured to perform the mitzvah of caring for the deceased. “It’s good to know that in our small way we can offer people comfort when they need it most,” he said.
Doing a kindness for the departed is called a “kindness of truth” said Chev Group Rabbi Jonathan Fox because “one cannot expect anything in return”.
“It’s done with pure intentions and that’s what makes it so holy. They are helping those who literally cannot help themselves, and this is the highest form of kindness.”
Said Tomson, “We are blessed to have such a committed and caring group doing this vital work, especially at a time like this. I salute every one of them.”
PURIM WHAT’S ON
See what is happening in your area for Purim.
Chevrah Kadisha: The Greatest Purim Drive-Thru! The Chevrah Kadisha is throwing open its doors at its premises in Long Avenue, Glenhazel, for the first time in a year to give you the Greatest Purim Show. On 26 February, from 11:30 to 15:00. Drive through the winding maze to see mind-blowing acts and attractions, all from the comfort and safety of your car! Lots of surprises and competitions for the whole family in this free Purim extravaganza.
Sydenham Shul: SydShul’s Spectacular Purim Carousel. Between 12:45 and 14:00 on Friday, 26 February at Sydenham Shul (enter at Main Street balloon arch). Free of charge, all welcome. Kids gifts and a raffle.
Ladies Purim Shiur (on Zoom): “Purim – a story of self-transformation” with Rebbetzin Estee Stern. Sunday, 28 February, 09:30. Meeting ID: 813 028 4050. Password: sydshul
Great Park Shul: Has an exciting COVID-19-safe carnival, with balloons, treats, and lots more. Friday, 26 February from 14:00. Book your children for the best fun ever! Go to the Facebook page, Great Park Shul, for more information or to book.
Greenside Shul: Women For Women – reading of Megillat Esther outside. At 14:30 on Friday, 26 February. RSVP shul office 011 788 5036.
Chabad of Greenstone: COVID-19 friendly Megillah readings on 25 February at 19:00 and 26 February at 17:00. Email: firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Sandton Shul: Sandton Shul presents a fun, COVID-19-friendly Purim drive-thru and car dress up on 26 February. Dress up your car to win prizes. Chip n dip and slush available. From 12:45 to 14:00. Here’s the internet link for all Megillah readings in Johannesburg: http://bit.ly/Purim5781_2021
Benevolent to the fore
For the past 128 years, the Jewish Women’s Benevolent Society (JWBS) has been working under the radar, assisting those in our community in need. However, since the onset of the pandemic in 2020, it has come to the forefront.
To date, the JWBS has provided more than 3 000 packs of essential winter and summer clothing. Since March 2020, it has donated funds to Africa Tikkun for sanitiser and masks; the Chevrah Kadisha for purchase of personal protective equipment; and Camp Kesher for activities and security. It also sponsored Yad Aharon’s soup kitchen for a week.
Beautiful blankets, in conjunction with nonprofit organisation Warm The World, have been knitted by our talented group of knitters; and the elderly and lonely received gifts and activity packs.
Boxes of books were given to various facilities in Johannesburg and to Jaffa Jewish Aged Home in Pretoria. Some residents have even started their own book clubs.
The men who work so tirelessly at Westpark Cemetery in Johannesburg received vouchers and gifts from the JWBS. Arrow, the German shepherd security dog and his handlers at Westpark were spoiled too.
All this and much more has been accomplished since the start of lockdown by the hard work and dedication of our staff and volunteers. The generosity of the community has enabled us to fulfil this vital task. We ask you to please partner with us so that we may continue to help those who need assistance during this difficult time.
Jews around the world call for Moshiach
For 3 000 years, Jews have been praying for Moshiach (the messiah) to come, but this weekend, the Jewish world is upping its game with a communal prayer demanding that “G-d send Moshiach now”.
So says Rabbi David Masinter, who heads up Chabad House in Johannesburg, and who is behind the prayer to be said at 18:00 (South African time) on Sunday, 21 February.
“One thing COVID-19 has taught us is how vulnerable we all are,” says Masinter. “It’s been a time of introspection. It’s a time of realisation that we need Moshiach. This is how this worldwide Moshiach project was borne.”
According to Masinter, a businessman in Miami came up with the idea, and a universal prayer was formulated.
“Two powerful ways to hasten the coming of Moshiach is through unity of our nation and charity. Therefore, we are encouraging everyone to stop what they are doing, say this worldwide prayer together, and give a little charity at the same time. When Jews all around the world band together for a shared goal, the power is immeasurable.”
Masinter says belief in the coming of Moshiach is a fundamental principle of the Torah, and that we have to yearn for him to come. “This is one of the fundamental principles of our faith,” he says.
“We believe that one day, Moshiach will come, and g-dliness will be revealed on earth. There will be no more war, no more suffering. There will be peace among nations.”
The following prayer should be said at 18:00 on Sunday, 21 February:
“Master of the universe
We, your beloved children
United together around the world at this moment
Are crying out to you in prayer
Please accept this prayer with grace and kindness
We sincerely thank you for all your daily blessings,
But we implore you from the depths of our hearts
To send Moshiach immediately to redeem us with mercy,
From this long exile and suffering
And to bring peace to the world
We can’t wait anymore!
We desire your great name to be revealed
Your dominion in the entire world
And your presence returned to the Beit Hamikdash – the Holy Temple – now!”
“SHMA YISRAEL AD-ONAY EL-O-HAYNU AD-ONAY ECHAD
HEAR OH ISRAEL, THE L-RD IS OUR G-D, THE L-RD IS ONE”
- For more information, go to www.wewantmoshiachnow.net
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