Growth versus ingratitude

Twice in this week’s parsha, Behaalotecha, we encounter groups of Jews complaining. In one instance, their request is granted; in the other, the response is less than favourable. These two contrasting events reveal a powerful lesson.

The first group approaches Moshe, upset that they missed the opportunity to participate in the Pesach offering. They cry out, “Why should we miss out?” They had been ritually impure at the time and therefore unable to participate. Moshe brings their request to Hashem, and in response, Hashem grants them a chance to bring the offering – a special opportunity even though they had missed the first. Thus, the holiday of Pesach Sheni was established.

In the second story, the people demand that Moshe provide them with meat. They refer back to the food they ate in Egypt, and bemoan what they’ve been receiving in the desert. Moshe, overwhelmed by the burden of their complaints, turns to Hashem looking for relief and instruction. This time, Hashem instructs Moshe to appoint 70 elders to assist him in managing the people.

Why the different responses? Why in the first case is their request granted generously, while in the second case, it’s met with a less favourable outcome?

A moment of reflection reveals that in the first case, the people were lamenting a missed opportunity not of their own making. They were seeking a chance to deepen their spiritual connection to Hashem, to grow and elevate themselves, and their wish was granted. The message here is that when someone feels dissatisfaction about their spiritual growth, or even if they’ve messed up and sincerely want to fix things, Hashem always gives another opportunity. It’s never too late.

In the second case, however, the complaints were rooted in a lack of appreciation. The people overlooked the miraculous blessings they were receiving and instead, focused on personal indulgence. Their daily nutritional needs were being met by the miraculous provision of manna – a heavenly food with perfect nutritional balance that was delivered to their door daily! Yet they complained. Moshe recognised that they had lost their sense of appreciation, gratitude, and perspective, and he felt overwhelmed. In response, Hashem directed him to appoint leaders – individuals of calibre – who could help guide and educate the people to restore their appreciation for what they had and remember what truly matters. And though Hashem did send quail to satisfy their cravings, those who partook did so at their own peril.

The message is clear: when dissatisfaction stems from a desire for personal growth and spiritual elevation, Hashem always opens a door. But when it comes from ingratitude and material dissatisfaction, it’s a sign to pause, reflect on what we have, and appreciate our blessings. Even then, if we have needs and wants, we can surely ask, and with Hashem’s blessings, our request will be fulfilled in the best way possible.