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Of doggie dreams and the kindness of strangers

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This isn’t a column about Daisy. It’s a column about kindness and appreciation. And even though Daisy, our beloved German Shepherd, is central to the story, she’s not the least of what it’s about.

Daisy died yesterday. It involved a Checkers Sixty60 guy, a motorbike, and the unfulfilled dream of a dog whose ambition was some day, before her dog years were up, to catch one. Yesterday she finally did it. Although sadly it didn’t end well. Not for Daisy or the bike. The Sixty60 guy was thankfully fine.

I was in a meeting when I started to receive calls. When they became insistent, I answered to hear the frantic voice of a woman I’d never met. She explained that Daisy, who had been taken for her daily walk by Prince, had been involved in an accident. She assured me that she, and a few others, would stay with Prince, who was distraught, and with Daisy (who wasn’t in a state to be aware) until help arrived. They had called CAP Security as well as the vet, who was apparently on the way.

Before anyone had had a chance to leave the house, she called again with an update. The vet had arrived and along with CAP were escorting Daisy to the vet for urgent care. She explained where they were going, and suggested that we go straight there. She also reiterated that what had happened was no one’s fault. Daisy had managed to get out of her harness and Prince was in need of a little TLC.

By the time we arrived at the vet a few minutes later, Daisy had passed away. It was that quick. And there was clearly little that could have been done.

We gathered at home in shocked silence trying to process what had happened when my wife received this message, “Hi Heidi, Zameer here from CAP Security. My deepest condolences for the loss of your Shepherd. We did our best to take her as soon as possible to the Orange Grove vet. We arrived on the scene three minutes after it happened. If there’s anything we can do for you at CAP, please let us know. We also offer K9 therapy to overcome trauma, with a friendly female dog called Storm. Kind regards Zameer.”

As if the kindness of strangers who sat with Prince as he cried over Daisy, who called us and made sure that we understood the situation, and who arranged for the vet and CAP to assist wasn’t enough, we now had this message to contend with.

It’s remarkable the difference these gestures made to us on what was a terrible day.

We knew of Daisy’s aspiration to one day catch a Sixty60 delivery guy, but as she hadn’t been well lately, we all assumed that her dreams would never be actualised. Until yesterday when, in a last burst of youth, she broke through her harness and finally did what she had dreamed of doing for all her dog years.

I have no idea if there’s a dog heaven. But if there is, it’s filled with kind people like those who sit with a dying dog, with people like Prince, with vets, and with people like Zameer who reach out to strangers to show they care. I guess there’s also an ongoing supply of Checkers Sixty60 guys who ride up and down to fulfil unrealised dreams.

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  1. Denise

    Dec 2, 2021 at 11:30 am

    Howard … in crying tears of laughter .. daisy died living her dream .. and you just made my day 😂😂😂

  2. Wendy Kaplan Lewis

    Dec 2, 2021 at 2:24 pm

    Beautiful article
    So sorry about your loss

  3. Loretta & Bernard Barnett

    Dec 2, 2021 at 4:55 pm

    Oh I am SO sorry to read this news.I too had German Shepard’s .They are super intelligent,faithful, wondeful dogs & broke our hearts when we lost them.We loved them so.
    I know the terrible pain of grief & feel deeply for you & your family at this time.Deepest condolences.

  4. su torrie

    Dec 2, 2021 at 5:39 pm

    sympathy, I wonder how many of these fast delivery drivers have ended their days like Daisy. How many injured drivers are lying on the road perhaps without the care and concern.

  5. Bev Moss-Reilly

    Dec 2, 2021 at 6:07 pm

    As an extreme dog lover, I wish you and your family a Long Life.
    The passing of a family pet is traumatic and beyond devastating.
    As animals have beautiful pure souls, I do believe that they go to heaven and I pray that one day I will reunite with mine who have passed on. To me, that would be heaven.
    My deepest sympathy on your loss. It is always heartwarming to hear any kind gestures, especially in today’s times.
    May Daisy’s soul rest in peace and may her memory forever be a blessing.

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We Remember campaign packs punch locally

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International Holocaust Remembrance Day on Thursday, 27 January, was designated by the United Nations General Assembly in November 2005 to commemorate Jewish and other victims of Nazi genocide during World War II. The date 27 January was chosen because it was on that day in 1945 that the Red Army liberated Auschwitz, the death camp whose very name today is synonymous with the horrors of the Nazi regime and the industrial-scale mass murder it perpetrated.

Over the past several years, the World Jewish Congress has run a #WeRemember campaign, in which individuals around the world are encouraged to write the words “We Remember” on a sheet of paper, take a picture of themselves holding the sign, and post it to social media using that hashtag. The global impact of this simple but powerful demonstration of solidarity and commemoration has been considerable, with the South African Jewish Board of Deputies (SAJBD) successfully implementing the initiative on a local level.

We were moved last year when Clive Mashishi, a social-justice activist with whom we have worked extensively to bring relief to areas especially hard-hit by the COVID-19 lockdown, decided to use the #WeRemember model to educate the communities he engages with about the Holocaust and counteract the toxic antisemitic conspiracy theories that are taking root in certain quarters.

Among the most malignant of these conspiracy theories is that which holds that the Holocaust itself is a Jewish hoax that Jews, through their alleged secret control of world events, have somehow imposed on a gullible humanity. Last week, the United Nations recognised the dangerous and hateful nature of this phenomenon by adopting a resolution condemning it. Sponsored by Israel and Germany, the resolution declares that the Holocaust was real, and that “to deny or distort the historical facts is wrong on every level and dangerous to society, and needs to be to countered with education”. It further urges governments and “social-media companies to take active measures to combat antisemitism and Holocaust denial or distortion by means of information and communications technologies, and to facilitate the reporting of such content.”

Fittingly the resolution was adopted (with only Iran objecting) on the anniversary of the infamous Wannsee Conference, where on 20 January 1942, senior leadership of Nazi Germany met to decide upon and plan the annihilation of European Jewry.

Holocaust remembrance isn’t only about commemorating those who died, but also to the living victims of Nazism. Part of the SAJBD’s work in this area has been to assist local Holocaust survivors wishing to claim under various compensatory, hardship, and relief funds that have been set up for those who suffered at the hands of the Nazi regime. Over many years, this task has been carried out with characteristic dedication and thoroughness by Shirley Beagle, who continues to go the extra mile to ensure that our survivors are given all the logistical, technical, and moral support they need to negotiate this complex and often intimidating process.

  • Listen to Charisse Zeifert on Jewish Board Talk, 101.9 ChaiFM, every Friday from 12:00 to 13:00.

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Let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater

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In our rush to get back to what was considered normal in a pre-COVID-19 world, I’m concerned that we might be “throwing the baby out with the bathwater”.

Where there is, of course, a great need to do away with restrictions so that we can rebuild our economy, relationships, and get on with things, it might be worth considering if perhaps we might want to consider holding on to some elements of the restrictions.

Like the Friday night curfew. And perhaps the requirement for that extra space between people and their neighbour in shul. But Friday night curfew, for certain.

There was a simplicity to life in the days, or rather nights, when curfew was imposed. For a short time, Shabbat meals started promptly, and there was no danger of having to consider eating one’s own arm just to stay alive while waiting for guests to walk to Glenhazel from Morningside. Or for the final salad to be made just as people are about to pass out from starvation.

That was also a time before curfew when one couldn’t feel confident that the meal would end before midnight. I recall, with some embarrassment, occasions when in desperation and panic, tears streaming down my cheeks, I found myself begging our host to end the meal before I took my own life with the help of a dessert spoon just so that I could rest.

The meal would invariably and uncomfortably hurry towards conclusion and in no time at all, we would find ourselves on the pavement with assurances that we should do this again sometime. Soon.

The walk home on those evenings was never pleasant as I endured lecture after lecture on the appalling nature of my behaviour. But we were on our way home.

There are other aspects of lockdown that might be worth considering holding on to. Social distancing in shopping malls, extra space in shul, and the need to hug people that you don’t want to hug. It’s all good and well when both parties are close and are in a hugging relationship, but the awkwardness around hugging uncertainty isn’t something I have missed at all over the past few years. It would be a great pity for that to become a concern again.

Masks, on the other hand, need to go. The longer we wear them, the deafer I find myself. More and more, I catch myself leaning forward and pulling down my own mask when trying to hear what someone with a covered mouth is saying.

It makes no sense, but I’m convinced that COVID-19 or lack of listening practice has contributed to the fact that I currently hear about 30% of what people are saying. As a consequence, I have taken to filling in the gaps of the missing 70%, which has made people a lot more interesting than they used to be. You wouldn’t believe some of the things that they didn’t say.

There is little doubt that we’re ready to move on. COVID-19 in South Africa is very last year. But like every good fad, it might be worth holding on to a few of the gains before trashing them with the losses.

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Getting on board with 2022

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In memoriam: George Szemere

I start this week’s column with a tribute to Holocaust survivor George (Stern) Szemere, who passed away in Johannesburg last week. George was born in Budapest, Hungary, in 1940, at the start of World War II. In the final year of the war, his father was one of those taken by the Arrow Cross to the Danube River, told to jump into the icy water, and then shot. George went into hiding with his mother and sister, and survived. In 1958, he left Hungary and subsequently settled in South Africa where he married.

Shirley Beagle, who assists Holocaust survivors with claims under various compensatory and hardship funds, only discovered George fairly recently. Just before the holidays, he was admitted to Helen Joseph Hospital and Shirley was concerned with his welfare. Through our network of Jewish Community Service doctors, we found Jewish doctors to monitor and visit him. I attended his funeral over the weekend. In spite of it being very small, it was dignified and moving.

How Lalela boosted a nation’s spirits

Coming near the end of another trying year, Miss South Africa Lalela Mswane’s success at the Miss Universe pageant in Haifa, Israel, came as a much-needed boost to national morale. Mswane represented our country with grace and courage, and was rewarded by being placed third out of 80 participants.

However, perhaps even more impressive was how she stood her ground not only in the face of an extraordinarily vicious campaign of bullying, intimidation, and invective on the part of the local Boycott Divestment Sanctions movement, but also the opposition of high-ranking government members. All manner of pressure was brought to bear on her to withdraw from the event, but in the end, her right to choose and the wishes of the majority of South Africans prevailed. The Jewish community supported Mswane throughout this process, and it was a pleasure for our leadership, together with hundreds of other South Africans, to be part of the enthusiastic crowd at OR Tambo International Airport welcoming her home.

Latest COVID-19 guidelines

Throughout the COVID-19 pandemic, the South African Jewish Board of Deputies (SAJBD) has taken the lead in convening regular meetings of the national communal leadership to discuss issues, share information and best practice, and plan and co-ordinate our response. To ensure that decisions are based on reliable and up-to-date information, we have included medical and other experts in the discussions. On Sunday, a Zoom meeting was held to brief communal leaders on the medical and legal considerations regarding mandatory vaccination. Professor Barry Schoub and Neil Kirby from Werksmans Attorneys set out the scientific and legal framework for the question. Based on this information, each organisation will assess the situation from their perspective and decide how to proceed. A recording of the meeting is available. I encourage those seeking information to write to midweekcovidupdate@gmail.com.

Solidarity with Beit Yisrael Shul in Colleyville, Texas

On behalf of South African Jewry, the SAJBD sent messages to Jewish communal organisations in America and to the American Embassy expressing our support after four members of the shul were taken hostage by a gunman in an antisemitic attack. We are immensely thankful that they all escaped unharmed.

  • Listen to Charisse Zeifert on Jewish Board Talk, 101.9 ChaiFM, every Friday from 12:00 to 13:00.

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